Hey guys! Just a quick update, I will continue with New Yolk times next week and I will be including some new shows I'd like to squeeze in, namely DC's Legends of Tomorrow and Shadowhunters. As for these shows, I will post them right after their pilot episodes. Now, it is time to talk about the time we talk about phases.
Have you heard any adult telling either of your parents this, "Oh don't worry. It's just a phase." Usually phases are seen as something we go through temporarily and they turn us into destructive teenagers. It makes us the immature weirdos that we are and remembering those days just makes us cringe with embarrassment or regret. And if you don't want to be reminded again, then I suggest that you do not read on. We are going to point them all out right now!
Here are some phases we most likely went through and that we cannot deny. Just so you know, we all went through this and it is nothing to be ashamed of.
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1.) The Twilight Phase
For those who have read the books, we've all been there. You were probably very curious about what the book is all about, you decided to read it, and you loved it to bits. Especially Edward and Jacob. For some reason, these guys were idyllic and the things they did to Bella were what you would call as "#RelationshipGoals". Basically, everything about this saga seemed perfect and you wanted to be in Bella's shoes and you dreamed of having your own Edward or Jacob because they were just goals. However, time passed by and you suddenly thought that Twilight was terrible and unrealistic. After abandoning this fandom, you point out everything wrong and unromantic about the books (ex. Jacob's imprinting on a baby). And the best part is, when someone brings up the days you loved the series, you deny it furiously. You either pretend to not know that much of the series or you wear this disgusted look implying that you don't want to remember any of it. But if you still love Twilight for what it is, then good for you. Because of this, expectations and standards that girls have on romance and dating have made it impossibly high that even the tallest boy in the world cannot reach it. Upon reading it, we immediately have this idea that a relationship is acceptable and ideal if the guy we are with is either hot, rich, or overprotective. For those who find that ridiculous, then you will most likely not enjoy reading or rereading the Twilight Saga. But admit it girl, you thought this was the best form of literature ever.
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2.) The Hopeless Romantic Phase
I separated the Twihards from this because...well, they built their own empire. Lovey Dovey phase is something you would go through when you start to become obsessed with the idea of romance. You watched all the chick flicks, read all the Nicholas Sparks and John Green novels in the world, and you started to slowly build in your mind what your love story can be. You were very idealistic, especially about love. You created this list about what you look for in a life partner and you based all your standards on the books and movies you loved. Pretty smart! You also planned out your dream wedding, you even envisioned how you want to be proposed and you have convinced yourself that you will be swept by your feet and that you will find "the one" when a random guy or girl does a very specific gimmick (ex. close an entire shopping district for you to shop in, rent a very rare island, name a star after you, surprise you with many gifts, propose to you in a certain place.... basically anything that involves cash, really) or just looks like a specific famous personality. No matter what anyone says, looks matter, especially when you were in a lovey dovey phase. Before being kind, smart, or talented...he or she needs to be seriously hot. If not hot, he or she has to be filthy rich so this person can afford all the romantic stuff you invented in your head. But not to worry guys, just listening to Taylor Swift is enough for us to learn what love can actually be...right?
3.) The Weeaboo Phase
Weeaboo is a term for anyone who is obsessed with anything Japanese. Weeaboos loved everything about Japan and to them this country was the best thing ever. You pretended that you were from Japan and you religiously followed their customs, culture, language, slang, fashion, and behavior. At one point, you researched your family tree and you tried to convince yourself that you had Japanese blood in you. Everything you learn at Anime absorbs quickly than anything you learn at class. I'm not saying weeaboos are dumb, though. Weeaboos can be intelligent, too. So we definitely have the time to explore every Anime there is. Why? Well, not everyone likes Anime or anything Japanese for many reasons. Unless your school population has a percentage of Otakus bigger than ten percent, then chances are no one was able to relate to you in class. Hence, you didn't have much friends and Anime seemed to be like your only ally. You even based your relationship goals on Anime thanks to the many attractive fictional men. Because of this obsession you had, a lot of people in your school probably found you strange because you become very upbeat when it comes to your favorite Anime. Also, there is a chance you attempted drawing Anime characters and you might have the talent for it. And you will know you're the only weeaboo in class when your classmates will slowly ask you questions about common Anime shows, your knowledge on Japanese vocabulary, and if you have a talent in drawing needed for a certain art project.
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4.) The Emo Phase
If you were slightly obsessed with the color black and the band called "My Chemical Romance" then chances are you referred to yourself as an Emo kid. A lot of us who were slightly influenced by this phase thought being Emo is cool because you only wear black, you look at everything cynically and "maturely", and you wear a lot of eyeliner. But Emo is short for emotional. People who are really Emo are the ones who truly deserve all the love in the world because they are dead inside. If you went through this and is still breathing today, then I would just like to say that I am proud of you. You have made it this far and you deserve a massive celebration. But if you identified yourself as an Emo just to wear eyeliner and black and listen to rock bands associated to this term, then I hope you've grown out of that because you would be considered a poser to this day. Because being an Emo kid is not "cool". Being mopey and distressed about life all the time is not considered cool.
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5.) The Hipster Douche Phase
For me, this is the evolution from the Emo phase and it is something my generation and the younger ones are going/went through. When you consider something mainstream (good or bad trends) as irritating, then chances are you are attempting to be a hipster. You're probably that person on Facebook who types opinions about what you most likely think about this particular trend and most of the time, it would be written in full details, in an intellectual tone, and it becomes this 500 word essay on why you simply don't like something. Now I said "attempting to be a hipster" because being a hipster does not necessarily mean you have to spit on every trend that is out there. In other words, you are just a person with very negative opinions about everything common and popular. Not a hipster. Hipsters don't just hate anything that is popular. Hipsters, I believe will only criticize a trend if it demeans social issues, not because it is everywhere and everyone likes it. If you only view most popular things as just simply irritating then you're a hipster douche who just wants to destroy this common culture. I don't know with you guys, but I believe there is a fine line between purely hating on trends and having a simple opinion about them. Now this is one phase that is difficult to explain because it is a state of mind and it gave birth to this very established culture. However this culture has influenced many entities, especially the fashion industry and ironically, hipster fashion is slowly becoming something mainstream as well. And if that irritated you and you had a lot to say about it, then you were most likely in this phase of your life.
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6.) The Social Climbing Phase
Now you went through this phase because you wanted everyone to like you. This is the most general thing that almost anyone can go through, because what's wrong with wishing to be liked right? This is the most flexible type of phase because if your group of friends are into being hipster or on a certain fandom, you try to be a part of it. Most likely your range of interests weren't wide enough, and you convince yourself that you like what your friends like because all that matters is that you are not left out. You wanted to relate to the student body no matter what, so you become this adaptable machine moving from one phase to the next, depending on which person you choose to hang out with. Now this looks unpleasant because it kinda looked like you didn't have a sense of being at the time, but that's okay. The efforts you went through to researching on certain trends, cultures, and fandoms, you begin to decide which ones you like the best in time. Soon, you gradually became your own person and that's great.
Well I hope you're all not ashamed by your past phases, because they made us what we are today. This post was inspired by a conversation I had with my friends a few nights ago when we talked about all the phases we went through back in high school and elementary. Now which phase did you go through? Was it in this post or was it slightly different? Is fangirling a phase? Probably not. It's a cycle that stays with us....forever. Till the next post~
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