This post contains spoilers. You've been warned.
Hey there, guys. As you may have noticed, I went past the Valentine's Day deadline for this particular post. I delayed this on purpose because the message behind this whole thing is the kind that we tend to ignore, especially when we strive for love. You probably think this is cynical me trying to tell you that love does not exist. On the contrary, I do believe in love. Rather, I think love is being viewed the wrong way.
THE WORLDY VIEW OF LOVE
As insecure as we can be, we can become very selfish and demand unrealistic expectations for this entity called love. We come up with lists of ideal traits for a partner and fantasize about romantic gestures (most prevalent during this time of the month), because we have this little belief that we are meant to be valued and that romantic love is the solution. Then we are hit with the reality, that love is not treated as this passive cure. You eventually learn that depending on your relationship on shallow romantic gestures does not keep the spark alive in the long run. And when the love story ends, we make this hasty conclusion that love was never real, and it's all just a shallow feeling. This is because some of us expected it to fix our plain lives in the most magical way possible, kind of like the ones we see in movies or on TV.
But love is not to be dealt with, selfishly. Love is putting all yourself and your prejudices aside, just to make room for someone who is worth that kind of effort. In short, it is a shared act of sacrifice, acceptance, kindness, & respect. Emphasis on shared, especially if this feeling is revolved around two people. Again, a lot of people ignore this side of love because it involves sacrifice. It's a very taboo word because sacrifice means letting go.
Ironically, that's what the anime, "Paradise Kiss" has taught me.
PARADISE KISS' PORTRAYAL OF THIS WORLDY VIEW OF LOVE
Created under the wing of MADHOUSE, Paradise Kiss came out during the 2000's and it is a 12-episode anime based on the manga by Ai Yawaza (Nana) of the same name. It even came out with a live action film produced by Warner Bros in 2011. It starts out as a romance between a high school student named Yukari and an aspiring fashion designer named George, but it ends as an coming-of-age story. It falls under the genre, "Josei" which means it is an adult anime, portraying realistic dilemmas that people deal with in everyday life. So it is safe to say that this is a tragic love story that ends with hitting the right notes.
Although there were losses, the characters gain important lessons…even though it was painful. The characters do not end up together, but they were able to pursue their dreams. Paradise Kiss presents an interesting conflict between fantasy and reality. The dream was to simply have everything; their love, their friends, their recognition, and achievements. But the reality tells them that they cannot have it all. The anime revolves around these two polarizing forces, and the stakes become high when the fantasy wrestles with reality. Basically, our main characters want their dreams to meet with their reality.